There are times I feel like I am living in the movie “Groundhog Day”. You know where the guy wakes up to the same day over and over and over again… Most days I am happy with that. I have plenty to do to keep me busy. I have goals and dreams and a thousands things for my business and around the house that need to be done.
Then I start to look around on Facebook or just at the things going on in other’s lives and suddenly my happiness and contentment starts to diminish. I start questioning everything. I start to feel like everyone else’s life is moving forward and mine is just stuck.
Everyone’s getting married, having babies, building houses, moving, doing all these things that you do in life. Me, I’m still here, still doing the same things I was doing a year, 5 years, 10 years ago…
Okay, granted I have done a lot of cool things in those past 10 years. A lot of things most other people haven’t had the chance to do or go or achieve or enjoy. I have a lot of things other people don’t have.
I’m happy being single, I really am. I mostly am single by choice. I’m not trying to date, trying to find someone nor do I feel like my life is incomplete. If I meet someone, if the right guy comes along and it happens, then it happens. If not, then I am just going to keep on living my life to the best and fullest that I can.
It is still tough though at times not so much by my on doing tho. I feel this pressure from every source around me to be normal, to be married, to have kids, to do all the things the majority is doing.
Maybe that’s just not me though. Maybe I’m just not the type to go with the flow or fit in. Frankly, I’ve never felt like I fit in anywhere, anytime much except for a while in my direct sales business. Why start fitting in now???
Comparison is the thief of joy. This reminder came to me earlier today as I was pondering and praying over these thoughts, fears, doubts, this feeling of being less than or left behind while the rest of the world is moving on…
How true that statement is. As long as I don’t think about or compare myself to the norms of society, the lives others are living I am pretty darn happy and content. The minute I start to let that pressure of feeling like I need to fit in, I need to be “normal”, that I need to do what the world expects of me, that’s when I start to feel sad and uncertain and less than.
I’m awesome just the way I am, where I am and who I am. I still have a lot of learning, growing and improving left to do and only God knows what the future holds. Until then I’m going to just keep focusing on how I can serve God and others and use every bit of talent and each opportunity I have to SHINE…
I hope you will be encouraged to live to your fullest too regardless of what your circumstance, relationship status or life is like right now. Don’t let anyone else dull your sparkle. Don’t let your awesomeness shrink by comparing your life to someone else’s.