Rome wasn’t built in a day and my blog won’t be either…

Do you ever have days where you start to ask all those “why” questions?

  • Why am I here?
  • Why am I working so hard?
  • Why is it so hard for me to focus on my goals?
  • Why can I not seem to stay on top of things?
  • Why am I always so tired?
  • Why do I care so much?
  • Why am I asking why so much?

I have been having a lot of days like that recently. I am so behind on so many projects. I have dozens of partially written articles. I have tons of new project ideas. I have so much I want to do.  I just don’t seem to have enough time, energy or focus to get it all done.  I feel like I’m just constantly chasing loose ends.

I used to want to change the world. I wanted to make a difference, leave a legacy, help other people. Now all I want to do is take a nap. (ha ha)  I seriously don’t know how all the parents out there do it. I’m exhausted just keeping up with myself and my career. I cannot imagine having kids and a spouse to take care of too.

I see all these other bloggers who have families and work full-time and they still manage to get posts up on their blogs several times a day. I just don’t know how they do it.  My brain is on overload with all the design projects I’ve been working on lately, charity events, family responsibilities, taking care of household chores. I’m exhausted. I’m too tired to get my thoughts together and post anything worthwhile.

When I get overwhelmed I start to question my own “why” and start asking all those other why questions.  I start to doubt myself. I start to think I was crazy for thinking I could really accomplish all my goals. I start to wonder if maybe my dreams are just too big. I wonder what’s wrong with me that I can’t get it all done when others can?

“Do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others.” – Anon.

“Rome wasn’t built in a day” and obviously this blog won’t be built that fast either.  I need to accept that fact and just keep focused on doing all the little things that need to be done. I need to learn to not bite off more than I can chew. I need to learn to not be so hard on myself. What is the rush anyways? I don’t have to conquer the world today.

“How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” – Anon.

What about you? Do you get frustrated when you are overwhelmed with life and work and start to question everything too? Do you have any tips on staying focused on your goals when the going gets tough? Please feel free to share your thoughts by commenting below!

PS – the picture in this post is of me & one of my best friends. It was taken in St. Peter’s Square in Rome in 2005 during a missions trip we took to Italy.


  1. says

    I have to agree with you. I’m overwhelmed sometimes. Trying to get content updated, kids, family life, etc. I have started using MS One Note, to map what I want to write, and different things so I’m organized and don’t have papers everywhere. One bite at a time, like you said, and not gulps, but sips.
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    • says

      Thanks for the reminder Regina, I used to use One Note and it was a huge help, don’t know why I stopped using it! Yep one bite, one day, one breath, one project at a time. :)

  2. Leslie says

    Hey Girl! You must have been reading my mind today. I had a major blow-up at work today. It seems that is the only thing that will get anyone to listen to me any more. I had a good long “ugly” cry as Oprah calls it immediately afterward and then a long afternoon of self-searching. I feel so … I don’t know what I feel any more. I want so much more, but don’t know how to get there. I keep trying to prioritize and get samller goals accomplished, but it seems as soon as I get one step up on the ladder I get knocked back 2 steps … I feel like I just keep getting deeper and deeper into this rutt I try so hard to get out of. Where do you go from here? … How do you overcome “life” and get to that happy place of accomplishment that you can be proud of?

    • says

      Sorry to hear about your blow up at work Leslie! Yep story of my life is 2 steps up and 3 steps back. Oh well I guess as long as we keep moving we will get there eventually. Honestly I’m not sure it’s even possible for me to feel completely accomplished. I think I’m just such an overachiever that nothing I do will ever be enough for me. If that makes sense at all, lol… I just have this ridiculous need for achievement, purpose, ambition so I’m sure I’ll always be trying to do something bigger, better, something for someone else to try and make a difference. I don’t suppose that’s such a bad thing after all though…

  3. says

    Thank you SO much for writing this post Misty! I have seriously been having panic attacks lately thinking about all of the things I need to do on my blog. Just tonight I was talking to my boyfriend about how overwhelmed I am, and he was trying to calm me down by telling me that everything’s ok. It’s not life or death, it’s not the end of the world if I don’t get a post up. I have been so stressed out lately, and it’s really been wearing on me. I need to just calm down and do what I can when I can. I also need to be better about writing things down so that I have something to look at that will help me keep track of all the things I want to do. I think part of my problem is that I don’t do that often enough, and then I stress out trying to find info I need when I REALLY need it. You are definitely not alone in how you are feeling right now. I hope that we can both learn to relax a little better and not worry so much. Like you said, Rome wasn’t built in a day!
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    • says

      You are welcome Mindy! I know how you feel. I don’t know why we put so much pressure on ourselves. I was so worked up and exhausted last night I went to bed before midnight which never happens. (I’m usually up working in the wee hours). I slept for almost 11 hours and I feel so much better today. I’m not any further ahead but I do feel more rested so that’s a big help! Hang in there and just take it one day at a time!

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