I have been thinking a lot about friendships lately. At Reviewer’s Retreat Ted Rubin (CMO of Collective Bias) mentioned how Facebook has tried to re-define what a “friend” means. All those “friends” we have on Facebook are not really friends. They might be acquaintances at best. We need to take the word “friend” back and really focus on relationships and truly connecting with others.
I have had a really difficult time the past year or so with “losing” a lot of friends (or people I at least thought were friends). I have a tough time with people coming and going in my life. I’m sure it comes from way back when my biological father walked out of my life (that’s another blog post though). I have this ridiculous desire to please others. When I feel like someone doesn’t like me or approve of me or something I have done, well it is really hard for me to not let it bother me. As I get older and more confident I am learning to not let my opinion of myself be determined by other’s opinions of me, but I’m still a people pleaser and want everyone to like me. I don’t know if I can ever change that.
I have been really blessed to make some new friends and connections in the past few months. They have been a real blessing to me. I love how God brings just the right people into our lives at just the right times. I suppose the opposite is true even though that is a harder thought to accept. God takes people out of our lives at just the right times too. It might hurt, it might be scary, it might not make sense to us, but somehow I have to believe it is for our best. I believe every person who crosses our path is for some specific reason – maybe for our own benefit or for their benefit.
Friendships and relationships have an ebb and flow like the ocean. The tide brings new people into our lives and pulls others away too. We can’t fight the tide. We can try to run after it or keep it from going back but it is pulled by a force that we cannot control.
Just like warm summer days spent by the sea, memories of those good friendships and special times together should always put a smile on our faces. All we can do is try to learn from each person and relationship that God brings into our paths and make the most of every relationship. Whether they are there for a season or a lifetime, or if they leave us under positive or negative circumstances, we need to just “bless and release them” and let the tide take them wherever God intends.
“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” – Marilyn Monroe